Okay ladies, I was watching The Oprah Show the other day and there was this gay guy on promoting a book he wrote about his gay-life style. Now, he was gay and married with children, his wife hadn't known about his other sex-life for 13 years!!!...ok i'd like to hear how you feel about this...i think it's a womans worst nightmare.

Been there done that- looking back, I am glad he left me for a man and not a woman!!!!! Granted I don't have kids- but this way I know it is nothing against me.... I don't have a penis. It wasn't my hair color- or boobs- or love making technique... nothing like that....
But damn it- He got the house and boat!!!!!

These things always bother me cause I wonder how in the world someone wouldn't know.
I mean, you're married to the guy. How could you not even suspect after 13 years?

In any case, cheating is cheating. I think it's awful. If you're gay, be gay. Don't mess up someone else's life cause you can't deal with it.

Priceless, was this J.L. King whom you saw on Oprah? He spoke at an HIV function here in Nashville, a few months ago. He seemed fairly surprised by the prominence he's experienced since appearing on Oprah's show.

There seemed, also, a fair amount of baggage that he toted, even having put his business out there. I guess, when you write an expose like that, the fallout is continual. That probably accounts for the chip he seemed to have against "straight" men in the audience.

He finally got around to saying that not all heterosexual men are on the D.L. ... toward the end of his speech. Feeling the angry glare of some angry sisters, I was like: Gee, thanks.

ThreadBare said:

I don't know, all i know is that he sounded a lot like Micheal Jackson.

Married to the guy for 13 years and she never knew???? I wonder how he explained being away from home for lengths of time????

"John, honey. You forgot your body massager in the bathroom!



Is it really that good for easing your back pain?"




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priceless said:

I'd like to know why he thought he had to marry her in the first place. I feel sorry for both of them. Him not quite as much, because he *did* cheat on her. But I do feel sorry for him because he thought he had to marry a woman in the first place, and for her because she just found out 13 years of marriage was a lie.


But a "woman's worst nightmare"? Don't speak for all of us, honey. I can think of a lot of things tonnes worse than this a guy could do to you. Sure, I'd be hurt that he lied to me if I was in that situation, but I wouldn't go into therapy or anything. Basically, I think it would play out something like this:

him: Honey, I'm gay.


me: Well, why didn't you just tell me to start with, dumbass? I still would've married you if it was "normalcy" you were trying for -or better yet, I would've told you to stop lying to yourself and the world and find a man you like.

Such a misleading thread title.

subhuman09 said:

Indeed

...And whether the enemy makes a run on the palace
Or whether the enemy does not,
The children will be laced with the protection of the word of God
The opposite of OPRAH is HARPO
And if the number 13 is such a bad luck number
When there's no such thing as luck
Then the berries, talons, arrows and stars
Are all superstitions, what the ...

How could one not know? He was bit deceiving towards her.

I know too many guys who have come out after 40. I can't imagine living a life where you try to surpress something so ingegral to your being. One is forever trying to be happy and wishing the "bad" thoughts away. Maybe they have sex with women to turn themselves around. Maybe if they get married and have kids...the "gay" thing will go away. Maybe if they ask and pray to god it'll wane and disappear. Maybe if they "train" themselves not to have those thoughts, they will be fine.

I have a friend who I really think is gay. He is hispanic and comes from a very religious family. He does not go out, unless it's with his best friend or his best friends girlfriend. We have only hung out by ourselves on occasion. He is ALWAYS over at his friends house...ALL the time. They have been friends since teens and it has always been like that. I do have to say that he comes from a large family with a small house...so there may not be a lot of room to just be.

But he has hardly any other friends. I try to get him to do other things (I know that the girfriend is a tad bit over him coming over ALL the time and hanging out, so I try and give her reprieve). I saw this from the beginning I met them all. He dotes on his best friend all the time...always carrying stuff...and going to all the dj/live gigs his friend has (even the GF doesn't).

I have to say guy is a Rock...a great friend...always there. He's Gilbralter. I doubt he's been with a girl (well rumors over a red light district trist in amsterdam...something or rather)...when does he ever go out to meet them. Gets too ewwey when we mention a girl we meet and befriend.

In his defense he is INCREDIBLY shy, and may just not be comfortable meeting girls. Though he is 28 and it's time. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin/late bloomer as I have a few friends like that...but at least they show a gumption for wanting and talking about sex...he does not.

I really want him to be happy, cuz he's great and deserves it. I just hope he doesn't figure it out by the time it's too late. He'd make a great BF for a guy or a girl....just needs to be the right one.

CarrieMpls said:

seriously...

PANDURITO said:

Ha ha.

This guy i mentioned said that he wouldn't call himself gay...like are there variations?
In my books a gay man is a man who has sex with another man and does this very often.
If he's married with children i understand why he keeps it a secret but i only wonder about how his wife feels. Maybe i should go back to watching Jerry Springer.

Damn...

Here I thought this thread being about Oprah being gay, married, and having children that we never knew about.

priceless said:

There's more than just two options.....
It doesn't begin and end with "gay" and "straight", there's a whole rainbow (ahem!) between the two.