PREDOMINANT said:

lollyp0p said:

Not at all, I meant no offence (except to Red, and she will deal with me in her own time )

It is all part of that heretige thing, part of my situation is that the inlaws are italian and they don't want grandchildren to loose identy with their past.

PREDOMINANT said:

Ohh hooo!! My name isnt common... neither is my mothers maiden name, and I definitely wont be marrying any Brown or Smith..

So, mine will just be up there - Pure Class!!!

Cloudbuster said:

Thanks

PREDOMINANT said:

Same thing, my grandparents had 3 girls, so there is no one to carry that name. I would like to.

lollyp0p said:

REDFEATHERS said:

For Italians, christian names run through families, I will be keeping them happy that way

PREDOMINANT said:

I know you meant no offence

I'm not offended,

lollyp0p said:

Drinks pints of beer and she's thick skinned, I like ya!

subhuman09 said:

stephen, ronan, keith, shane and mikey , my hero's

PREDOMINANT said:

Part of our divorce decree was that she change her name back to her maiden name. Shit, it's my name and I'll be damned if a piece of shit like her is going to be carrying it around anymore.....

flame me if you want for the "piece of shit" comment, but half of you don't know the story.

jerseykrs said:

Erm .....?


I think that's fine and quite a normal request.

I took my husbands name when we got married because I never quite liked my maiden name and it's easier with kids to have same name too.

My brother on the other hand took his first wifes name and after divorce kept it and now his second wife has a combination of her maiden name and my brothers ex-wife's name. A bit confusing
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Cool question....My hubbie has issues with this one as well. I don't quite understand why either. I chose 2 keep my madien name 2. It has nothing 2 do with my love 4 him ,it's just that I have had my name practically my whole life n I don't want 2 give it up,it's who I am. Anywayz,I have a hyphenated last name...my madien name n his last name. It works 4 me but every now n then he has somethin' 2 say about it but oh well I don't think that it is that big of a deal. That's some kind of a man issue I guess. When a woman bcomes a "Mrs."that means n itself that she "blongs" 2 a "Mr.". 2 me that is kinda fucked up,so not alwayz takin' the last name of u r husband is'nt all that. Later on 0)+>

i have a gal pal who's been very happily married for the past couple of years and has twins on the way, and she's kept her last name - she's a writer, and she considers her name to be her "brand". i think too that her husband, who's a painter, encouraged her to keep her last name for the sake of her writing career. i think it's a very cool arrangement.

when/if i do the marriage thing, i think i'd be down with legally changing my middle name to my partner's last name - a la john and yoko - if my sweetie was cool with doing the same thing. i like that idea. i keep my own identity but change a little bit of myself.

I think if the guy I was marrying had a cool name I might take it, or I might wanna make up a new name for both of us. I'm more into the aesthetic than anything. If we decided to keep our own names then if their were kids, I'd want to come up with a whole new name for them for sure. It's weird. I don't really ever plan on having children, just not my thing, but I've already got names picked out, including last names. I just like the way they sound. So I'd probably give a child of mine a different last name than my own anyway.

i am sorry i am married to my work so that is not an option.

hans however did have a small fling as you call it with a dachsund in the 60's.

he maintains it was the hallucinogens, but i still hear him chanting after lights out:

"viener dog! viener dog! come back to papa! i vill give you de sausages!"

hans takes his work home with him sadly.

Anxiety said:

I'm a writer too and, for that reason, I probably won't change my name if I get married. The "by-line" makes up my portfolio.
My sister says it's important to have the same last name as your kids. I do agree with that...maybe a comprimise would be to hyphenate the last name of the kids Or, maybe I would hypenate mine. I dunno. It's all speculation at this point...
My best friend kept her name (she's a journalist as well) and her son has her hubby's last name. I'm not sure I'd like that for me.

She'll have to take my last name or else the wedding is off.

applekisses said:

HEY POOK KNOW DOCTOR

WHO MARRY CHIROPRACTOR

AND RUN OFFICE TOGETHER!

WELL IT GET CONFUSING WITH TWO DOCTOR SMITH RUNNING AROUND

SO GIRL DOCTOR CHANGE NAME LEGALLY

BUT USE MAIDEN NAME FOR PRACTICE!

JUST LIKE STAGE NAME

jerseykrs said:

YOU TELL HER!

i took my husband's last name, although it seemed strange at first.

but i have YET to change my drivers license, passport, green card, credit cards... what a pain in the ass. shoulda thought about that before i changed my name...

I took my husbands name when we married because it was easier to pronounce than my own last name. It's also a very Scottish name which I liked too. I think it's cool that some women keep their maiden name, but it's the hyphenated names that I can't stand (no offence to anyone). I think it's ridiculous to hyphenate your name. Some sound so silly and others are just a mouthful to get out. IMO - either keep your own or take his, but don't hyphenate.

Well my story is NOT hypothetical.....

My wife did not take my name... just the way she is..... my last name, Phillips, is a pretty cool last name too, but alas she declined....much to the chagrin of my family and friends....

We have three kids, last name..... Schroeder-Phillips

We decided that when they are old enough to decide, they can choose which they prefer.....

She sucks like that, but I'm over it now.....

I took my husbands last name, but since I may be getting my divorce by next month - I dunno if I want to revert back as the kids have his last name.

i don't know what to think. it sounds strange to me and i think i don't like, but maybe it be cuz in my country don't change our names when we get marry. all have their single names and all have two names(father and mother). i think it's ok cuz there isn't trouble in getting divorced